Lube: 4 tips for making the most of this playtime aid

Don't overlook the humble lube!

Don’t overlook the humble lube!

As far as we’re concerned, lube is one of the most underrated accoutrements in the intimacy tool kit. If you’re viewing these little bottles just as sexual aids, and not as experiences unto themselves, you may be selling the humble lube short!

Lubricants today come in a dizzying array of scents, sensations, and textures. And while they deserve all the props they get for addressing dryness during sex or masturbation, it’s time we also start celebrating lubes for how they can elevate the experience of toys, dildos, and even anal play!

Here are some tips on how to find a lube you like and make the most of this handy bottle:

1. Know your ingredients. Lubricants can be water-, silicone-, or oil-based; some are even a mix. For the most part, you can let yourself be guided by what feels good. Just remember that silicone lubricants generally don’t play well with silicone toys (because of silicone’s bonding nature), while water-based products are usually a safe bet.

2. Start small, sample a few. Buy some samples and then start with patch tests to make sure you like a lube’s scent and texture. Don’t hesitate to seek out recommendations — online reviews and salespeople at upscale toy shops can be great sources of information.

3. Keep it close. Nothing ruins the mood like having to dart into the bathroom at the wrong moment, so keep your lube within reach. (You may even want to stash a few choices so you’re ready for whatever mood strikes!)

4. Experiment…and have fun! While the extensive array of choices may feel overwhelming (especially if you add edible flavors and temperature sensations to the mix!), that’s part of the fun of lube.

Darn. Guess you’ll have to play more so you can try them all out….

Want to learn more about lube? Start here:

Wikipedia on lube varieties & uses

Good Vibrations on the pros & cons of different lubes

Photo credit: Chelsea Gomez (Oakes)


  1. Amy on November 22, 2013 at 4:06 am

    And watch out for those warming lubes, especially the ones with menthol. Spot test them on a small area of your skin to avoid a painful allergic reaction!

  2. Tovally Awesome on November 22, 2013 at 6:36 pm

    I like the sample test to place a tiny bit in the upper gum line.
    Mixing different types to make personalized "cocktails" and appreciating the different sensations that come from the various glide properties. Too much lube is almost enough!

  3. Andrea Jayne on November 25, 2013 at 6:21 pm

    Wonder if you can make your own…… chemicals or synthetic scents.

  4. on November 25, 2013 at 6:55 pm

    Hey Andrea, if you want to try a pure natural lubricant, you should consider extra virgin coconut oil as an alternative. There are quite a bit of information you can find on this. It is also great for vaginal dryness.

  5. on December 3, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    Ha! Love that sentiment. 🙂

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